Mugore dore ibanga ry’uko wasigasira umubano n’uwo mwashakanye

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Kenshi mu bashakanye usanga rimwe na rimwe habamo umwe wigira ntibindeba mu gusigasira umubanow’urugo, ariko kwigomwa kenshi ni kimwe mu bishobora gutuma umubano wanyu ukomera.

kumvikana bizafasha umubano wanyu gukomera birambye.
Kumvikana bizafasha umubano wanyu gukomera birambye

Uyu munsi wa none hifashishijwe imbuga nkoranyambaga zandika ku mibanire y’ingo, ibi bintu bitandatu umugore ushaka kubaka umubano urambye yakirinda kubikorera umugabo akaryoherwa n’urugo:

  1. Reka kugerageza gukemura ibibazo bye byose

Igihe umugabo wawe afite ibibazo by’amafaranga cyangwa byo ku kazi gerageza kwirinda kubimuvanamo, kabone n’ubwo kumuha ubufasha umutega amatwi, umwereka inzira byacyemukamo ari ngombwa gusa irinde kumwinjirira mu bibazo ngo urenze  urugero.

  1. Kumuha impano zihenze cyane

Ni byiza guhana impano mwembi zihuje ibiciro bingana mu mubano wanyu. Guha umugabo wawe impano zihenze kuruta izo aguha cyangwa adafitiye ubushobozi ushobora gutuma yumva yigaye ntabyishimire we ubwe.

  1. Irinde kumufata mu mugongo

Abagabo ntibajya mu rukundo cyangwa ngo bubahe abafasha babo gusa kuko babagirira impuwe. Ukuri kugaragaza ko umubano wanyu wanshinze imizi n’uko umwereka urukundo rutagira icyo rushingiyeho umukunda wese. Kuko igihe cya kindi wamukundiraga kidahari bivuze ko gukundana na we birangirira aho.

 

Ibanga ry’ibyishimo mu mubano rishingiye ku gufasha umugabo wawe kugera ku ngano y’ibintu byinshi.

4. Kwigira inyangamugayo ibihebyose

Nubwo waba uri umunyakuri kenshi kubaza uwo mwashakanye ngo “Nakubwiye iki?” si byiza kuko bigaragara nko kubahuka umugabo wawe.

Biba bigaragara nk’aho uri kubwira umugabo wawe ko buri gihe uhora uri umunyakuri. Bene iyi myitwarire ikaba isenya umubano itawubaka na mba.

  1. Kwitangira ubuzima bwawe

Kubona urukundo mu buzima ntibivuze ko ukeneye kwitangira inshuti n’akazi cyangwa umwuga ukora. Igihe witangiye ibyishimo byawe wenyine n’icyo ukora uharanira kwita ku muryango wawe ntibizagutangaze umugabo wawe ahagaritse ku kwiyumvamo n’umubano wanyu ukazamo agatotsi. Ntugakore ngo urenze urugero nk’uko urubuga rusobanura umubano rutangaza (Understanding relationship).

  1. Irinde kwiyitaho cyane

Birasanzwe kugaragara neza imbere y’umugabo ukunda ariko, umugabo ugusaba guhindura uko ugaragara cyane ntibivuze kubiharira umwanya wawe wose.

Ku rundi ruhande kumvikana  bizafasha umubano wanyu gukomera birambye.

Yanditswe na Nsanzimana Germain  

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