Niba uri kumwe n’umukunzi wawe mukamarana umwanya muri mu biganiro byihariye cyangwa se ukaba wamukorakora bishobora gutuma mugira ubushake bwinshi bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ku gitsinagabo ho bishobora guhita bigaragara kuko igitsina gifata umurego ku buryo bugaragara, ariko ku mukobwa biragoye kuba wahita ubibona ko abishaka.

umukobwa wagize ubushake bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina


Nti byoroshye, nako nti bisanzwe ko umukobwa yakwerura akakubwira ko ashaka gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina, abakobwa bakunze kubihisha nubwo ubushake bwabo burya bukunze kuba bwinshi cyane mu gihe cyabo cy’uburumbuke.

Kugira ngo uzabone umukobwa ukubwira ko yifuza ko muryamana ni imbonekarimwe kuko n’iyo yaba umugore wawe mubana ntabivuga ahubwo aca kuruhande agakoresha amarenga kugeza ubyumvise.

N’ubwo muri rusange iyo abakobwa bashaka imibonano mpuzabitsina babihisha, nti bivuze ko batajya bagira ubushake, rero ntiwakwiyibagiza ko bafite umubiri wa kimuntu utuma nabo bagira ubushake bukabarenga ndetse witegereje neza ukaba wabibona bitewe nuko bitwaye.

Niyo mpamvu twagerageje kubagezaho bimwe mu bimenyetso byakwereka koko niba umukobwa yagize ubushake bwinshi bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina ariko akaba atabikwerurira:

  1. Kumira amacandwe

Umukobwa wagize ubushake bwinshi bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina uzasanga akenshi arimo kumira amacandwe buri kanya kandi akayamira ubona atamanuka kuko aba yacitse intege, ndetse ugasanga rimwe na rimwe no kuvuga byamubanye ingorabahizi ijwi ridasohoka neza wagirango yasinze.


2. Gutukura amaso

Umukobwa ufite ubushake burenze bwo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina akenshi amaso ye aratukura asa n’ananiwe, ukabona arasa n’ayajemo amarira, ku buryo umureba ukabona yiterekesha amaso.

3. Gucika intege

Iyo umukobwa byamurangiranye yafashwe, aba yacitse intege kuburyo icyo washaka kumukoresha cyose yagikora, bivuze ko aho umujyanye ariho ajya, kabone n’ubwo yakabaye ari kubyanga ushobora kumva avuga ati oya ariko ukabona ari kubikora kubera kwanga kugaragaza cyane ko ubushake bwamurenze.

4. Gutosa ikariso

Nubwo ibi atari ibintu wabona akokanya umurebye, ariko ikizakubwira ko yari yapfiriyemo imbere n’uko iyo yagize ubushake bwinshi usanga mu gitsina cye ububobere bwiyongereye ku rwego rwo hejuru kuburyo bigera no ku myenda y’imbere bikaba byagera aho bihinguka n’inyuma.


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