Benshi mu bagabo bavuga ko kunyongera umugabo ari byiza, ko abagore bakagombye kwiga kubikorera abagabo babo ndetse bakanamenya kubakorera n’udushya mu gihe barimo gukora imibonano mu rwego rwo kubaka umubano uhamye hagati yabo.

Ese ni ngombwa umugore kunyongera umugabo mu gihe cy'akabariro? Kunyonga bikorwa bite?

Kunyonga ni uburyo bugezweho bufasha umugabo guha neza igitsina cye umugore we, ubundi nawe agakomerezaho akigeza hose imbere muri we mu byumba byose bigize igitsina cye.

Abagabo benshi bemeza ko umugore uzi kunyonga aryoshya imibonano mpuzabitsina, ndetse byakarusho agafasha umugabo kumva uburyohe bwinshi mu gihe batera akabariro.

Mwakwibaza ku batabizi, ese ubundi umugore kunyongera umugabo mu gihe barimo gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina ni iki? Ese bikorwa bite ?

Ibitabo byinshi bivuga ko uyu muco ari uw’Abanyafurika, ariko ukaba waraje kugenda ukwirakwira hirya no hino ku isi hose n’iburayi. Umugore akaba anyongera umugabo igihe bari gutera akabariro iyo amaze kumva uburyohe bw’icyo gikorwa, ibi nabyo bikaba ari bimwe mu bishimisha umugabo cyane, ndetse bikaba byanatuma arangiza vuba.

Igihe umugore ari gukorerwa uburyo (Position) bwo kwibamba n’umugabo we (amunyongera) amufasha kuzamuka gahoro ku gitsina cye akirinda ko cyavamo ahubwo agasa n’uheta umugongo kugirango kinjire neza kandi kigere aho yumva yifuza, ibi bikaba bigenda byongera uburyohe ku mugabo.

Ubu buryo bukorwa umugore yandika ndetse agasiba zeru cyangwa umunani akoresheje umugongo buhoro buhoro yahese umugongo. ubu n’uburyo busaba umugore kwitonda kuko yirinda gushyira ibiro bye byose ku mugabo ahubwo akiyoroshya kugirango abashe kwinjiza neza igitsina cy’umugabo hose muri we.

Umugore kandi ashobora kunyonga igihe ari gukorerwa ubundi buryo agafasha umugabo kumanuka gahoro gahoro mu gitsina cye, ariko yirinda ko igitsina cy’umugabo cyavamo kuko bishobora gutuma gihita kigwa bityo umugabo akabihirwa n’imibonano kandi yari yishimye.

Iyo uganiriye na bamwe mu nzobere mu bijyanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina, bakubwira ko uburyo bworoshye umugore yanyongeramo umugabo ari ukwandika 0 cyangwa 8 akoresheje ikibuno igihe bari mu gikorwa nyirizina, hanyuma agasiba uyu mubare akoresheje ikibuno cye ariko akirinda ko igitsina cy’umugabo kiva mu cye.

Kunyongera umugabo kandi abagore benshi bo mu Burasirasuza bwa Afurika babifataga nk’uburyo umugore yafashaga umugabo we kumurongora neza igihe umugabo yabaga ananiwe kandi akeneye gutera umugore we akabariro, ibi bikaba byarakorwaga mbere y’uko umuco wo gutegurana usakara mu bantu.

Nubwo ariko ngo abagabo benshi bakunda ko abagore babo babanyongera, hari n’abandi bumva ko kuba umugore atabimukorera ntacyo byamutwara ahubwo agashimishwa n’uburyo umugore yitwaye muri icyo gikorwa n’uko yamweretse ibyiyumviro bye mu buriri.

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